I am a sophisticated human being, drink expensive wine, my professional extent revels in research on blue chips, I discuss world economy with my friends over cigar, I graduated from IIT, I was a scholar, I have travelled across the globe , I earn in dollars, sometimes in sterlings, sometimes in Euros. I am the best, I am potent and I am competent, I am just 29. I drive Jaguar.I am the most coveted Indian prototype for the families back in India looking for a groom for their hot daughters.
I am Miss Ludhiana, an MBA, work with O & M , I am tired of being proposed by almost all the acquaintances encountered in life . I am most desired female in the town, I will drive Ferrari,I need not compromise but still in worst case porche/Jaguar will do.
The two people unfortunately had a common uncle. Talks were broached and pleasantries exchanged . Professional photographer clicked snaps holding hands , with complete family standing at the back and sides were promulgated on orkut and facebook. Desire intensed to the grand finale occasion and they got married on 12th Feb 2005.
3 years down the line ...
Merit : Both are so happy together. God bless them.
Demirit : Guy - 'Man she is so pretty, I love her'. Woman- 'He gave me a Lamborghini, what else can I ask him'.
Conclusion : Material could give you a prospects to envy neighbours, future like a 10 year old who has room full of toys but no one to play with. Reasons to love should be eternal.Affection/delight/belonging beyond time-money continiuum fetches you a better future.
Above mentioned were the best case scenarios of an arrangement that turned into a marriage. In the season sale , mostly degrees for guys and milky white skin for gals are auctioned, sometimes even vice versa :) . In off season - gals are asked to pose 360 degree to show their figure(In such arrangements is it this easy to stare there :P ), guys were asked to stand (just to check I guess), gals to dance( kothe pe baithaooge kya ? ) , guys to talk about their ambition and statastics they have achieved so far(ab tum bhi le lo :( ), and so on...In this particular phase of sale , rejections are the biggest low of young ones. They may feel dejected, hopeless and helpless but I do not understand why parents keep their game up at the warfooting level all the time. Why couldnt they understand marriage is not about marrying a degree or marrying a person of same caste, or even marrying a good (read rich) family, instead an up-top subject about marrying your soul mate . In hurry I forgot to mention my personal favorite demand from the guy side -'We want our bahu to be highly qualified...but we would not want her to work post marriage ' :) (I am still thinking what crap to write here !) .
Marriages are supposed to be one of the most beautiful moment of life. Its a life time commitment of loving each other.
This article is dedicated to all the parents if it reaches that far ...
Dear parents,
I understand your world shrinks to an almost end when your daughter says 'Dad I am in love'. I understand ...but what is wrong with that. Didn't u want your daughter to love anyone before heading for sex or u want her to have sex and and then love some random guy who is just lucky to belong to your caste .
Cant you give her happiness of a life time ...I have a question here ...Society has two set of concerns - 1. You got your daughter married to the person she loves...you got her married to him. Man you really love your daughter.
2. You got your daughter married to someone of your own choice(read our choice). Man you really love us.
I want parents to give their take on this . Please mail me at sinha.prasoon22@gmail.com
Second, you always wanted us to study, be in the competition, any call from any gal/guy were parallely picked by mom, you never let me play/party/picnic/nigh outs/school tour/college tour.Always told me its a wild world ...stay away. And just coz I never went outside alone ..I dont have anyone speacial...by the gradual isolation I am bound to go for an arrangement you would set for me to hook up with someone to love. And to my amazement the moment I would get done with rituals whole khandaan would force me to go into the room with a glass of milk and almonds...TAB KAHAN GAYEE SAARE SHARAM. How come you expect a young and always protected(read instructed) guy/gal to react to this .
I have zillions of complaints with this concept and I have all genuine . I do not see any unreasonable element for introspection. Human mind is agile and keeps wandering. Getting the best of mind and heart stays happy. I have qualms and I have saddened. But I guess it certainly needs a change . To this particular thing I guess there could be no revolution overnight . It is high time and parents should consider the ambition of their kids towards their soul mates as clearly as they demand clarity in career.
PS - The topic of this article may be confusing ...I did it intentionally...To me they are alphabets from MARRIAGE( ARRANGED ! ) making no sense arranged in whatever order when forced :)
